Understanding The Power of the Dark Feminine: Reclaiming The Shadow Side You’ve Been Taught to Hide

Summary

In this episode, Layla Evans explores the concept of the Dark Feminine, a misunderstood aspect of feminine energy that embodies power, intuition, and transformation. She discusses how societal conditioning has led to the suppression of this energy, particularly in women, and emphasizes the importance of embracing one's true self without fear. Through various methods such as self-acceptance, setting boundaries, and practicing shadow work, listeners are encouraged to reclaim their power and embody the Dark Feminine. The episode also highlights the significance of the new moon as a time for reflection and transformation, inviting listeners to connect with their inner selves and embrace their emotions fully.

Takeaways

Women have been conditioned to fear their own power.
The Dark Feminine is raw, magnetic, and transformative.
Embracing the Dark Feminine means knowing your worth.
Society teaches women to suppress their dark side.
The new moon is a time for reflection and transformation.
Embodying the Dark Feminine involves embracing sensuality and sexuality.
Radical self-acceptance is key to empowerment.
Setting boundaries is a sacred act of self-respect.
Transformation requires surrender and acceptance of change.
Shadow work is essential for integrating the Dark Feminine.

Links

Declutter = https://youtu.be/_iZ7aSE7go0?si=4zgfKbw2ZOZEu8td

Boundaries = https://youtu.be/31emlrbCi0o?si=f1zEV0WCELIvSbHz

Chapters

00:00 Embracing the Dark Feminine
04:32 Societal Suppression of the Dark Feminine
11:10 Integrating the Dark Feminine Energy
14:49 Transforming Daily Routines into Rituals
15:41 Trusting Your Intuition
17:33 Embracing the Unknown
18:28 The Power of Silence
21:19 Radical Self-Acceptance
24:13 Reclaiming Your Power
25:35 Setting Boundaries
27:29 Embracing Transformation
28:30 Fully Experiencing Emotions
30:51 Creating Rituals and Sacred Spaces
32:46 Practicing Shadow Work

Transcript

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For centuries, women have been taught to fear. their own power to be soft, to be small. to stay safe. be seen and not heard. but underneath that conditioning lies a deeper truth. a calling, an unmistakable energy. The Dark Feminine. Ooh. It's raw. magnetic, sexy, intuitive, confident, sultry, mysterious. an unapologetic energy that births transformation. and confidence. And today we're going to do a deep dive. into what the dark feminine is and what it really means to embody her. Not through chaos. but as creation. So come to the dark side with me to learn more and know not in a Star Wars way, more of a metaphysical way. Hi friends, welcome back to the Do Life podcast where we talk about life, its challenges, and some clever ways to tackle some common obstacles with cutting edge technology, scientific based research, and a splash of metaphysical properties. I'm your host, Life Coach Layla And today we're diving into a topic that's mysterious, magnetic, and often misunderstood. The dark feminine. This episode is for every person who's ever been told that they're too much. Too emotional, too strong, too intimidating. Too sensual, too loud. too deep, too whatever. and has learned to shrink themselves down in order to feel love. Today, we're not shrinking anymore. we're remembering. We're remembering who the fuck we really are. and what we came on this planet to do. Hint, hint, it's not shrink ourselves or people, please. or give our lives away to other people. So let's start with the basics. What is the dark feminine? when we hear the words dark feminine. Most people immediately think of something negative. I blame Star Wars. ah But they think of something evil, something dark, something satanic sometimes. like darkness equals danger or chaos or manipulation or sin. But in truth, dark doesn't mean bad, it means hidden. And the dark feminine is the part of ourselves that we hide, our shadow self. the emotions, the instincts, the desires. all the things that we've been conditioned to repress. because they either made others uncomfortable or gave us too much power. It's the raw, unfiltered, intuitive, untamed side of the feminine energy. the side that says no when everyone else expects them to say yes. because that side has learned to set and enforce healthy boundaries. the side that feels rage and anger and isn't afraid to express it. that isn't afraid to express itself sexually and doesn't feel the need to constantly apologize for even just existing. part that knows her worth. without needing any kind of external validation or to give any kind of explanation either. The dark feminine is the opposite of light feminine, obviously, which is often characterized by its qualities of like nurturing. softness. empathy and selflessness. And now, I'm not here to say that one is inherently better than the other, or one's good and one's bad. I think to live a harmonious life, they need to be in balance, equal to each other. But what I've noticed is that with a lot of modernized or Western cultures, we've been taught to suppress the dark side and only embrace the light. because embracing the darkness would oftentimes put you in danger. For so long, women have been praised to be in their light feminine. for being nurturing, serving, gentle, unforgiving. And while those are all really beautiful qualities to have, without the dark, the light burns out. The shadow gives the light its shape. and vice versa. So embracing the dark feminine means knowing and acting your work. It's confidence, it's sexuality, it's intuition. It's mystery. It's your shadow self. It's self-acceptance. It's setting and enforcing boundaries. It's... feeling all of your emotions unapologetically. knowing it's okay to cry. And I mean like a lot if you want to, ball like a baby. it's okay to rage out in a healthy, harmless way like punching pillows or going to a rage room. as long as it's a way that doesn't hurt you or other people. and it's okay to feel your feelings. Doing so helps allow transformation and room for growth. And we'll go deeper into how to embody each of those a little later in the episode. But first. I do want to a little bit about how society has taught us, mostly women, to suppress the dark feminists. Think about how early we learned to disconnect this part of ourselves. And I'm not even talking about the suppression throughout history, like the Salem witch trials or the American plan. Don't get me started. I'm talking about just in our lifetime. as little girls were taught to be obedient, to... not be so bossy, to do as we're told, to be seen and not heard. As teenagers, we're taught to not be so emotional, we're taught to... not be so opinionated or ask questions. And then as women. We're taught to be agreeable, accommodating, submissive, and small. We're praised for being nice, but rarely acknowledged for being authentic. and every time we silence our anger. or swallow our truth. or dismiss our intuition. we exile our dark feminine energy deeper into the unconsciousness. And ultimately this results in burnout and disconnection and self-destruction and... People pleasing, self-sabotage, dysfunctional relationships. creative blocks, emotional instability, depression, and the list goes on and on. and eventually turns into resentment. Because the dark feminine Doesn't disappear. She just waits. She waits for the moment that you can no longer. fake being fine and have no choice but to reclaim her. and reclaiming your dark feminine isn't just about becoming aggressive or cold or manipulative or any of the other common misconceptions. It's about integration. It's about bringing your shadow back into the light with love and curiosity, not blame and shame and guilt. And we'll go deeper on this in a moment, but first I wanted to talk about the connection between the moon and the feminine, specifically the new moon, which is also known as the dark moon and the dark feminine. It's typically common knowledge that the sun is a very masculine energy. It's related to male figures throughout history, and most men are on a 24-hour cycle energetically. The moon throughout history has been associated with females and feminine energy, as we are supposed to be on a 28-day cycle energetically. So when there's a new moon, it's the perfect time to connect with the dark moon energy And when working with the dark feminine and new moon energies, you're invited to go inward to reflect. to release and reset. In the darkness, new seeds grow. We let go of who we were to make space for who we're meant to become. I bought a moonology book from Yasmin Bolin. I've been buying the moonology diaries for years. I think they're so fun to work with. But she does Full Moon Forgiveness and New Moon Wishes. And that resonates with the majority of my research in working with the moon. And somewhere on social media, I don't remember where, there was this cute little song that just pops into my head subconsciously every night of the new moon and it's, new moon, new me, I am planting my seeds, new moon, new me, new energy. And it's cute and catchy and it's fun. You don't have to adopt that. You don't have to do any of this. This is just a little blurb that I wanted to insert here because I feel like it's relevant and not a lot of people want to work with astrology or any of those things and that's fine, I understand. But for those of us that want to go a little deeper, I thought this would be helpful information. So I wanted to share that with you. But in general, dark side of the moon often primarily relates to... New beginnings. and a connection to the subconscious or unknown. It also represents the hidden or mysterious elements of life. and within oneself. and it can signify periods of closure. the end of a cycle or time for deep inner work like shadow work. inner child healing and intuition building. And essentially, that's the energy of the dark feminine. death and rebirth. endings that make room for new beginnings. So when we work with the new moon intentionally. We're not just setting goals, we're aligning with the natural rhythm of transformation. And that's why I chose the new moon of next month to host something special I've been working on. specifically because Thursday, November 20th, there's a new moon in Scorpio and I'm hosting a free master class on the dark feminine. So if you don't get enough information here, you want to go deeper or you want to learn more or you're really excited about this or you're ready to reclaim your energy, please join me. I... 6 p.m. Central Standard Time. I'm in St. Louis area so if that helps figure out time zones. Leave a comment on whatever platform you're watching this on. Just leave the comment that says moon and or if you see a short or or a real or a post, uh comment moon and I will add you to the list and get you signed up for the free masterclass that I'm hosting that night. It's an evening designed to help you reclaim. to help you reconnect with your shadow. release emotional suppression and reclaim your true power. And New Moon in Scorpio is about setting. is about transformation and setting goals. related to deep emotional matters. hidden truths, and personal power. So together we'll dive into the deeper layers of the feminine energy. through a guided reflection, embodiment practices. and practical psychological-based tools. for integration. Remember, it's not about becoming something new. It's about remembering who the fuck you are. and who you've always been, who you were meant to be. So have you been feeling burnt out, disconnected? or you know you're ready to fully embody. your truth, purpose. This class is for you. So leave me a comment and reserve your spot now. and follow my social media pages for more information. And even if you can't make it and you still just want more info, Let's go deeper into some ways that you can integrate the dark moon energy on your own. Right now. So now that we understand what the dark feminine is, the next question is, how do we embody her? And I just want to say that the dark feminine isn't a concept. She's an experience. She lives through your body, through your boundaries, through your choices and your energy. So let's explore some of the many ways that she can show up. and how you can begin to invite her back. So number one would be to embrace your sensuality and sexuality. Dark feminine is deeply connected to the body, to pleasure. to desire and sensual expression. And this isn't about being provocative. It's about being present. Sensuality is a portal to self-awareness. when you allow yourself to move, touch, feel, and breathe without shame or guilt. or the fear of judgment. you activate creative life force energy. Is Kundalini energy tied to the dark feminine energy? also connected to the Kundalini. I don't know if you've heard anything about that or researched it. My friend Dawn Hong is an amazing Kundalini expert. Highly suggest you look her up and do any kind of classes or courses that she offers and experience at first hand yourself. It's just one of those things. It's really hard to explain and maybe I'll do a whole episode on that some other time. But right now we're working on the dark feminine energy, which is a close relative. Kundalini is a part of that energy. It's the life force energy. So it's also tied to everything we're talking about right now. Ways that you can embody it are... ah Like dancing, dancing alone. taking long, slow baths, feeling your skin, hyper-focusing on sensations, touches, and feelings of everything. exploring self-touch, not necessarily just sexual, but just in general, just actively feeling and being aware and present of the nerves in your body, in your skin. I did something called the PQ, PQ coaching method and actually hyper focusing on different sensations and sounds and visuals and looking at things intensely and basically intensifying all of your senses is a part of meditation. It's something people can learn to do to calm anxiety, which is just. controlling your mind. So hyper fixating on sensual feelings and touch is a way that you can embody this dark feminine energy. and adorning your body intentionally. Like when you get dressed in the morning and you put your earrings on, don't just rush through and do things. Be slow and strategic. I am decorating my body with this piece of jewelry. These are a part of me expressing myself and the things that you wear and do that day. Make getting dressed a ritual. Make getting ready in the morning a ritual, not just something to rush through. Slow down, be strategic. Feel the material on your skin. And this is where decluttering comes in. I did a whole other episode on that, but only wearing things that make you feel powerful. Getting rid of worn out, holy, torn, ratted. clothing, undergarments, those don't make you feel powerful. So turn normal things that you rush into, into rituals. When you have your breakfast, when you're eating your breakfast, don't just scarf it down and swallow it as fast as you can so you can get out the door. Take the time to realize that you're nourishing your body. Think it, taste it, slow down, and really just turn it into a ritual for yourself because you're doing this for you. Acknowledge it, embrace it, and be present for it. yourself becoming the highest version you can be every morning. And remember, pleasure's not a reward, it's a birthright. Where can you slow down and experience pleasure? Do you like the flavor of your morning smoothies? Take slow sips. Feel it, taste it, enjoy it, appreciate it. Appreciate you for doing good things for your body. The second way you can embody the dark feminine is to trust your intuition. The dark feminine speaks through whispers, through your gut. your dreams, your inner knowing. She doesn't shout, she whispers and she feels. Can you think of a time where you knew you weren't supposed to do something? You knew this wasn't gonna end well. You just had that gut feeling that you shouldn't do this thing or you should do this thing. And then you didn't listen. And then something not ideal happened. That's your intuition. Those are the quiet whispers of your guidance. And the neat thing is, the more you listen, the louder she gets. So when you've been suppressing your intuition, it's harder to hear. I noticed when I tried to... lean heavily on my intuition, it was really hard for me to decipher between my intuition and my brain. someone says your intuition talks in statements and your anxiety talks in questions, which I thought was brilliant. But also, the voices in my head, the thought processes, tend to overwhelm any kind of intuition that I had. because the brain wants to chime in with its logic and its reasoning and its chatter and its blah blah blah. Because honestly, sometimes your intuition can feel irrational, but it's ancient wisdom. It's tied to your DNA. And it's always there to guide you from the highest version of yourself. And even if it guides you and something happens and you're like, what the hell was that? It's because you're meant to learn a lesson. It's trying to teach you something. And you can practice listening to your intuition by asking small questions. and listening for subtle guidance and journal, journal on the events that took place when you tried to listen to your intuition. Notice what your body says when your mind disagrees. The third way you can embody the dark feminine is to honor your mystery. The dark feminine thrives in the unknown. She... doesn't rush clarity, she trusts the unfolding. We live in a world obsessed with certainty. But true transformation happens in the mystery. in the cocoon, in the void. Pause before the next chapter. One of the first things they taught me as a life coach was to get comfortable with uncomfortable silence, to learn to love the quiet spaces. There's so much power in the unsaid. the moments of that's where moments of clarity come where your thoughts can be heard. then your brain can process them freely. learned how to be silent? Learn how to be silent and give space for other people. and not have to worry about oversharing. Save the stories for your friends. I used to think that the more I knew about a person and the less amount of time that I knew them, the crazier they were. I would hang out with a lot of mentally unstable people or people on a lot of drugs that would just come up to me and be like, yeah, my kids got taken away and I've had 14 abortions and I just don't know why the three baby daddies I have, one's in prison, one's on heroin, one just died. And I'm just like, I... don't even know your name. And I would just judge them and I would think that that's a level of crazy I didn't want to be. And so I stayed quiet and I thought that by being quiet and not oversharing or sharing anything, I kept that mystery and that I wasn't crazy. And now I'm learning to let go of judgments. that I just thought that was something maybe to share. And learn to set in the in-between when. someone asks you a question, you don't always have to rush to give them an answer. Take a moment to pause and reflect. not just on what you want to say, but why do you want to say it and how is it going to be received? And I know that sounds like a lot to process when you're being asked a question. And if it's confusing, my go-to is almost to always answer a question with a question. You'll hear me talk about clarifying questions all the time if you listen to this podcast, because it helps clear up any kind of miscommunication. If somebody asks me a vague question that could be answered a multiple of ways, determining, you know, based on their intention, I will ask them specifically, did you mean this or this? Or what exactly did you mean by that? Can you elaborate a little more? So I'm answering the question that they're asking, and I understand what they're asking. And I still will take a moment to pause, gather my thoughts, and answer accordingly. because so many times we're so quick to just rush into an answer or have something else to say and we're reacting and not responding. And a lot of times, especially if somebody asks me something slightly triggering, your initial reaction is to react. You wanna say something from that reaction where if you stop and pause and think, okay, why am I triggered? that, did they mean to trigger me? Let me ask another question. Like, did you mean to say this this way or what exactly are you asking that gives you a chance to respond and not react? So don't be in such a rush to say things and use your voice. Don't suppress it either, but be comfortable in that silence. Embrace it. use it to your advantage. The fourth way we can embody the dark feminine is to embrace self-acceptance. The ultimate embodiment of the dark feminine is to... is radical self-acceptance, not the filtered, healed, super-perfect Instagram version. the real raw human you. When you stop judging others and your own darkness, you become magnetic and grounded. and free. And that's the kind of power that shifts the world, at least your own. love your fat rolls because when I see my little proofiness, I think this is my body's way of saving me from a famine. It doesn't know that we're going into winter and that I will have food available. It's also because we ingest poisons in our food and toxins all over the place. It doesn't know how to process or digest them. So it stores them in fat cells until it can figure it out later. So when I see, you know, a big, poofy belly, I know that that's my body's way of protecting me and taking care of me. And if you're super skinny, thank your body for having a high metabolism, for getting rid of burning fat because it doesn't want to put all that extra stress and pressure and weight on your organs. I used to hate my nose. um I've smashed it off somebody else's face. I've smashed it off the floor and I broke it multiple times. I think if my nose wasn't as big as it is, I could have crashed my brain. I could have cracked my brain and died. My big nose saved my life, essentially. Where are you overly critical of your, and not just your body, this could be your brain too. I used to think I was crazy and maybe I still do a little bit, but I've embraced it. I've embraced my crazy. It is who I am and who I'm supposed to be, so whatever. Now that's not to say that everybody should do that. Some of us need medication and some of us have embraced things after we've been medicated. So, you know, I'm not giving any kind of medical or mental advice. I'm just saying. that where are you overly critical of yourself that you could be a bit more forgiving and accepting? What can you love? Just the love. You hear God made man is in his image or whatever it is. So the universe or whatever you want to believe higher power created you when they made you, they made you perfect. So for you to criticize and hate certain aspects of you, that you basically saying that they made mistakes. Who are you to say that they made mistakes? Just embrace it. Embrace every part of your being. And also embrace the dark feminine in doing so. The fifth way you can embrace the dark feminine is to reclaim your confidence and own your power. No more shrinking yourself for any reason or person. the dark feminine walks around with unapologetic confidence. and not because she's perfect or conceited or egotistical. but because she's whole and complete. She knows that power doesn't come from control, it comes from within. It comes from authenticity. to step into your confidence by owning your story. speak truth even when your voice shakes. know that no one is ever any better than you. and you have every right to be anywhere that you are. Stop apologizing for just existing. Where are you playing small? Are you dimming your light so others can shine? What if by shining your own light, theirs can shine brighter? So you're essentially dimming their lights by not shining your own. You are powerful and confidence isn't just. And confidence isn't arrogance. It's embodiment. And who are you to decide what's best for other people? Did they ask you to dim your light? Or did you just think that that was in their best interest? Why is that your call? Don't dim your light. Shine your own light, because you might be motivating other people to shine their lights by shining your own, as opposed to dimming. Which brings me to the sixth way that you can embody the dark feminine, which is setting and strengthening your boundaries. Every no is a sacred act of self-love and self-respect. You can't pour from an empty cup. Stop giving yourself and your energy away to people and places that don't deserve it. The dark feminine teaches us that boundaries aren't walls, they're doors. They're doors that decide who and what get access to you, to protect your peace, to protect your energy, to protect your mental and emotional well-being. and if you've been over giving or saying yes to avoid guilt. Setting boundaries is your medicine. and I have an entire episode on setting boundaries. I'll link it in the show note. Highly suggest that this is something you struggle with. You watch that episode. and join me for the master class. but say no without explaining. rest without feeling like you need to earn it. walk away from people and things without guilt. This one, this one gets me a lot because I see so many people holding on to situations because... So I'll just say my youngest, no, my middle daughter dated a dude who was super disrespectful of her, her time, her life, decisions, everything. And she didn't wanna break up with him because it would hurt her feelings. It would hurt his feelings. And I finally sat her down and said, you're so worried about his feelings. Where has he shown any kind of concern for yours? And that... kind of struck a nerve with her and she realized, you know, she's doing all of these things to accommodate someone who could give two shits about her honestly and was just being manipulated at that point. And I see this happen so often. We're fed breadcrumbs and starving for more breadcrumbs when there's a whole feast, if we would just turn around. I hope that metaphor makes sense to some people. Anyway, the seventh way that you can embrace the dark feminine is to allow. transformation. Like I said earlier, the Dark Feminine is the goddess of death and rebirth. she destroys what's no longer aligned? so you can rise renewed. Transformation requires surrender. It's messy. It's emotional. It's uncomfortable. but it's necessary. cold, dark death of winter needs to happen so the bright, beautiful spring can bloom. And every time you resist change, you're keeping doors and opportunities closed. closed off. So ask yourself, what needs to die metaphorically? so that I can be reborn. The 8th way you can reclaim your dark feminine is to embrace your emotions fully. The dark feminine doesn't suppress emotions. she expresses it consciously. I'm talking ugly crying, screaming, punching pillows. Feel your feelings. Dance out your anger or your joy. Write about your grief. all of these sacred rituals. Like, have you ever, like act like a toddler. Have you ever just, have you ever actually observed a toddler? I used to swear they were all insane until I grew a bit more emotionally mature and then I realized that They're just fully processing all of their emotions all of the time. Society teaches us to believe that that's crazy. I think we would all be way more emotionally well off if somebody cuts you off in traffic and you just scream at them throw your fists in the air and then Drive off and you're all better But no, like seriously, watch them. They get mad, they scream, they stomp their feet, and then they wander off like nothing ever happened. It's gone, it's forgotten. It's out of their mind, it's out of their body, it's out of their emotions. I read something the other day, I can't remember this exactly, please don't quote me and hate me if I'm slightly off in the numbers. But it's like the chemical reaction of an emotion in your body is only there for like 90 seconds. I'm like 90 % sure that that's accurate, but it's something along those lines. Like I know it's a very small minimal amount of time that the chemical reaction of that emotion is in your body. And that's how long it takes the toddler to process it. They process it until they don't feel it anymore. And then they're over it. They move on like it never happened because they're not suppressing it. They're not holding onto it. They're able to fully release it. They don't suppress their emotions until we teach them that they don't hold grudges. They don't bottle things up. They process it immediately and boof, it's gone. And again, I'm not saying we should all act like toddlers all the time, but we could take notes. We could take some notes. E-motion is energy in motion. And when you give yourself the opportunity to fully feel it, you free it. The more you allow yourself to feel, the less power your emotions have over you. When you feel a moment of grief, the reason that grief lasts for so long is because you store it and embed it in your brain. So every time you have a thought, the brain doesn't know that it's a thought and not reality happening all over again. So anytime you feel sad or happy or angry, those emotions pop back up every time you think about it. If you were able to just let it go. and you quit giving it so much power, you would... ultimately not let it have so much control over you. The ninth way that you can embody the dark feminine energy is by creating rituals and a sacred space. And we kind of briefly discussed this when we talked about like getting dressed and ready in the morning, making it a ritual. Those are the things I'm talking about is giving space to yourself to embody this, this energy and these feelings. You can turn it into other rituals like lighting a candle every night or every morning or, you know, speaking something into your water. There's random studies that show that your water holds memory and you can say nice things to it and bad things to it and it reacts differently based on what the science is up in the air about that and we're not going to get into the schematics, but you could make it a ritual to say nice things to your water before you drink it. You can pull tarot cards. You can write your journal, writing in your journal prompt. Something I'm going to give away in the masterclass that I'm talking about is a free journal prompt to help you embody the dark feminine. So join me if you'd like that because that's a way that you can create sacred rituals and uh and right intentions. you know, working with the Neurone is another way that you can set rituals. But these things help ground your subconscious into... integrating change through symbolic actions. The dark feminine loves intentionality. and everything she touches becomes sacred. So from your morning coffee to your moonlit journaling. Do at least one thing for yourself every day and with intention. And number 10, probably the most important, is to practice shadow work. What does shadow work? I will probably do a whole episode on this by itself because it is so much and it's so in depth, but it's essentially. the heart of the dark feminine path. It's about facing the parts of yourself. that you've labeled unworthy, your jealousy, your anger, your intimacy. your pride, shame, neediness. and bringing compassion to them. Instead of asking, how do I fix this? Ask. What part of me is this trying to teach me? When you learn to integrate your shadows, stop leaking energy through the cracks. and leaking energy happens, I picture like holding onto your energy and you're trying to hold it and things are dropping and spilling and moving because you're trying to hold onto too much. When you can learn to let go, it just disappears. So the whole time you're trying to hold onto it and grab it and do all the things, it's... It's a struggle. If you just let go, disappears and you don't struggle anymore. I don't know if that's helpful. But yeah, you stop leaking energy when you stop trying to hide it. We all have a history. hear everybody has skeletons in their closet. It's your past. It's when I said to embrace your past, embrace all of you fully. Everything that happened to you. made you who you are today. So I'm not going to go into detail, but I've had a very traumatic childhood. And to say that I wish some of those things didn't happen is very correct. But also in the same time, I understand that I would not be who I am had those things not happened. I talked with my spouse not that long ago that we are one decision away from having entirely different lives. If I wouldn't have decided to stop doing drugs, if he wouldn't have stopped hanging out with people who ended up dying, like there's one decision in our lives that have made our lives completely different. And most of us have had multiple decisions that have ultimately changed the trajectory of our lives entirely. So to hide and reject the things that happened to you that created the person you are today is not embracing your dark. A minute. So that means getting real, raw, and honest with what parts of yourself you're hiding and why. Maybe it's your anger you're suppressing, your sexuality, your intuition, your voice. Shadow work is one way to begin the reclamation. you start by noticing your triggers. the people or situations that stir up something uncomfortable inside you. Jealousy, judgment, fear, anger. Those are your mirrors. They show you the parts of yourself that are still unhealed, that are still wounded. or unexpressed. and the dark feminine is not afraid of the shadow. hell she lives there. She is the shadow. She transforms it. When you begin to integrate her energy, you feel different. You stop chasing validation and start magnetizing opportunities. You speak with authority, not from ego, but from embodiment. you become soft and strong, compassionate but uncompromising. You stop performing and start becoming. So in closing, I just want to say that the dark feminine isn't something to fear. She's something to honor. She reminds us that there's power and purpose in our pain. There's wisdom in our wounds and magic in our emotions. So take a moment and ask yourself today, where have I dimmed my light to make others shine brighter? Is that even real? Where have I silenced my truth to keep my peace? Hell, I sent an uncomfortable message to my partner today, explaining how I felt about a certain situation that I know wasn't easy for me to send and wasn't easy for him to read. And I apologized for sending it, but also explained that it was because if I don't express these things, we can't work on them together. And me working on them by myself is not doing us any good. And so for years by me not saying this or expressing how this makes me feel, I think I'm protecting him because I'm saving his feelings, but the whole time it's just causing me to fall deeper and deeper away. So by expressing that and coming up with a solution together, we can heal together. So it's not my place to say what somebody else's best interest is. And that's kind of why I said that earlier today, but. When you silence your truth to keep the peace, you might be doing more harm than good. And what would happen if you stopped apologizing and reclaimed your power? the dark feminine lives in every woman and man. waiting for permission to be seen, heard, and embodied. When you stop fearing her, you stop fearing yourself. So I just wanna say thank you for sticking with me. Like, share, subscribe, do all the things, leave a comment and review so I can keep bringing you fun content like this. Remember to comment the word moon to get invited to the master class on November 20th. It's a Thursday at 6 p.m. Central Standard Time. I love you, I thank you so much for being here. Let's go do life in the darkness. Bye, love you guys.